In my promise to be a bit more shouty about things I’m up to, here’s a little something I’ve been working on over the last few months Blinkist, the app that creates short versions of bestselling non-fiction reads has launched Shortcasts, short versions of, yep, podcasts. Even on his most stressful days he was the most thoughtful, supportive person I had ever dated. And then we let fear take over if we don’t know, immediately blocking us from getting grounded. You might as well have. Available on all podcast players and link in bio. More importantly — should you? If things have started to feel off, there's a reason for it. I just expect of myself and work me to the end result. But it feels pretty fucking great to be back on solid ground again. I could see he didn’t want to make the choice he was making, and what hurt the most was that it didn’t stop him. I did get very comfortable with my life. Sometimes we have unrealistic expectations of our intuition as if to say we should 100% know what it means immediately. Yes, it often means that you go through a phase of wondering if you're the crazy one or the effects of them trying to destroy you, but rest assured: they always fall eventually because they overplay their hand. There’s a difference between loving someone being in love with someone and while he may love you, he may not be IN love with you. You feel unsafe. How do you begin to process, heal and move forward when your partner blindsides you with a breakup? It's OK to ask for help. It can be a painful process but it's better to face the situation head-on than be blindsided. You, too, will get over your ex. Each day I didn’t reach out I was proud of myself. Blindsided by breakup. It's entirely too easy to forget why the relationship ended and remember why it started. It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy. Even a bit of empathy and compassion about estrangement, especially given 1) the pandemic and 2) this time of year which triggers anxiety, shame and loneliness for a lot of people, could go a long way. Thankfully, you get life experiences and lessons from good ole Professor Life that show you what you couldn't see before. that being ‘good’ and striving to be ‘perfect’ is the route to not only getting what you want but also being *worthy* of it. So we need to check in with ourselves and loved ones, especially the ones who tend to always be helping, perfect or pleasing, or who pride themselves on being the life and soul. Have you been blindsided with a breakup? This is as much a note to self as it is a public service announcement. They require you to lie to yourself and to do things that aren’t in your best interests. When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and he suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup. raise your communication and intimacy levels. Blindsiding someone you’ve been in an official committed relationship with, is cruel behavior. This veneer of appearing ‘fine’ and keeping things to yourself keeps people at a distance. For a while, it was fine. The most important piece of advice I have for anyone reaching out to an ex is to make sure you are doing it for yourself, because it will help you WALK AWAY, not because you are hoping it will rope them back in. A few weeks later when I was feeling strong enough to have a mature conversation I asked him to meet, which he responded to enthusiastically. When it comes to knowing if it's the right time to break up with someone, we tend to look for big, dramatic signs. But each day he didn’t it broke me more. #secondchances #benefitofthedoubt #baggagereclaim #boundaries #healthyboundaries #tooniceformyowngood #recoveringpeoplepleaser ... How do we decide who is happy, strong, has it together or has ‘everything’? It could be that in our pursuit of a goal, we’ve lost connection to other things that matter because we’re blinded by who we think we’ll be when we get what we want. But if I could talk to him now, this is what I’d say: Guess what though? You just weren’t in on the conversation. Here’s what I know for sure about people who deal you a ‘blindsided breakup’: It’s not the case that they just woke up that day and decided to do it. They disappear so that you can’t engage with them, or they refuse to let you speak. By tying your worth and what you think will happen to how much you can basically influence and control other people’s feelings and behaviour, you’re set up for perpetual disappointment, leaving you veering between feeling that nothing is ever enough and struggling to enjoy any success due to anxiety about what’s next. With each new year, there can be a sense of renewal and a desire for us to bring the idealised version of us to fruition. I’m not ashamed of it because I have no doubt that I will come back from this pain twice as strong. They give the veneer of calm, happiness and a shared future while secretly wrestling with doubts, fears, anger and even grievances. #baggagereclaim #howtosayno #boundaries #healthyboundaries #selfcaretips #relationshipadvice #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasers #pandemiclife ... I’ve promised myself that I will do better at being shouty about things I've done or am doing. And it makes sense because I was raised this way. I just expect of myself and work me to the end result. The day I realised that the likes of my people-pleasing and perfectionism are driven by anxiety about *something*, a light bulb went on for me. Maybe it seemed like everything was perfect. I couldn’t reason with him. Like a lot of recovering people-pleasers and perfectionists, asking for help isn't my strong suit. I met him because of it. But I would say that the blindside breakup is the worst of all. Yes, it often means that you go through a phase of wondering if you're the crazy one or the effects of them trying to destroy you, but rest assured: they always fall eventually because they overplay their hand. Just some generic shit you’d say to an acquaintance, that he probably typed while pooping. that being ‘good’ and striving to be ‘perfect’ is the route to not only getting what you want but also being *worthy* of it. People share as little as thirty seconds of their story with me and I can read their pattern and how the rest of the story will go. We are our primary caregiver once we become adults, so we have to parent and nurture those younger, neglected parts of ourselves by gradually learning to meet our needs. Allow me to introduce myself: The day I realised that the likes of my people-pleasing and perfectionism are driven by anxiety about *something*, a light bulb went on for me. I have loved dearly and deeply and let go of people who I knew weren’t right for me. You might wonder whether you should keep trying to get them to talk. Just as much as cheating is a betrayal, so is abruptly blindsiding someone, particularly in response to my attempt to support you. 4. And at some point, once we’ve had our hand burnt a few times, we have to stop giving them the benefit not only of us doubting ourselves but of us not being truly honest with ourselves about what we’re doing. Sometimes we have unrealistic expectations of our intuition as if to say we should 100% know what it means immediately. Take care of you. Or even years. The best way to avoid being blindsided by a breakup is to communicate. That rug was lying. Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. What might experience as a by-product of that even in the midst of uncertainty? You’ve been dating someone special for several weeks. I’ve heard from so many people who were shocked by their discomfort with saying no *even when* it came to the matter of their health and comfort levels. #selflove #selfcare #baggagereclaim #selfworthquotes #expressyourself #boundaries #healthyboundaries #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #selfcarequotes #expressyourself #trustyourself #listentoyourgut #listentoyourbody #takecareofyourself #takecareofyou ... Narcissists *always* overplay their hand. They’ve ended the relationship in this way because of their issues. I thought you meant that. Here are some ways to deal with one. For this reason, I've seen many of my counseling clients go into a deep denial when faced with the possibility of being single again. If you want to change your relationship with anxiety, check out my short audio course, The Anxiety Sessions—link in bio. I didn’t want to go the “crazy ex girlfriend” route. Going about things in a different way would have involved looking at things more deeply than they want to. You are the steward of your boundaries and bandwidth. (I wrote that sentence before I noticed the pun and you know what I’m gonna keep it. Men are socialized to repress their emotions. Or, they say they’ll talk with you and then keep cancelling. And on occasion even years. Fear, resentment, guilt, anxiety, whatever it may be. But they haven’t done it because of your worthiness. Perhaps it’s because you’ve both tried to work through issues unsuccessfully. There’s a ‘why’ in everything that we do, and knowing why we’re doing something, and so being aware of hidden motivations or competing fears keeps us honest and ensures, not just that we enjoy more successful outcomes but that we don’t hurt others and then cling to our ‘good intentions’ instead of taking responsibility. Shortcasts launched a couple of weeks ago, and my podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions was part of the launch line-up alongside folks like Malcolm Gladwell, Dr Laurie Santos of The Happiness Lab, Farnoosh Torabi, The Doctor’s Kitchen and Nico Rosberg. Blindsided Relationship Breakup by HelpeeDeck(m): 4:16pm On Sep 02, 2015 Relationship break up can be of different types and can also happen for a variety of reasons. But if we register that we picked up *something*, we then become open to receiving further intel. #baggagereclaim #takecareofyourself #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #listentoyourbody #listentoyourself #selfcompassion #selfforgiveness #innerchild #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #futureself #expressyourself #emotionalintelligence #healthyboundaries #boundaries #selfcare #selfcarequotes ... Every last thing we do as humans is about trying to meet our emotional needs. Recognising where I've demanded too much of myself has allowed me to extend self-compassion to my younger self, to learn to take care of me, and to make way for decent experiences going forward because I'm willing to trust myself and listen to my body. When it happened I sent him a text. Or, they marked your cards on something that you genuinely believed that they were okay about. In my promise to be a bit more shouty about things I’m up to, here’s a little something I’ve been working on over the last few months Blinkist, the app that creates short versions of bestselling non-fiction reads has launched Shortcasts, short versions of, yep, podcasts. Get tips, tools and resources for living and loving with more self-esteem plus the latest updates from the blog and podcast with my weekly newsletter. Recognising that it's impossible to get a past need met in the present because the past doesn't exist any more, much as it pissed me off, it also liberated me from having to continue with habits like people-pleasing, perfectionism and over-responsibility. You’re that bit more truthful with you and can attempt to give you what you need. You know, that better than our current self that we aspire to and that may well be the source of self-criticism and disappointment, especially if, like me, you’re a recovering people-pleaser, perfectionist and overthinker. Wishing you a happy new year. ). Funny how, then, the more I people-pleased and engaged in perfectionism was the worse I felt. The blindsided breakup is kind of like a surprise party, minus the fun, and all of the drinking. How long you've been together isn't as important as the fact that you thought you were happy. The blindsided breakup is kind of like a surprise party, minus the fun, and all of the drinking. What makes us or someone else weak or messing up? So, if you were blindsided by a breakup, don't fret. It’s like saying ‘I’m willing to pay attention to myself even though I don’t know always know what my gut feelings mean because I value and trust myself.’ In turn, we get to understand the language of our gut feelings so that we don’t have to assume the worst or dismiss ourselves. If things have started to feel off, there's a reason for it. My podcast The Baggage Reclaim Sessions has over 200 episodes and 1.8 million + downloads, and I also host a Shortcast (short version of it) on @blinkist A few fun facts: 1. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. But never ever ever in my wildest dreams did I think that would be our last encounter. With the blindside, one stunned person is left suddenly alone in trying to figure out what happened. Everything was sailing smoothly and I was too clouded with the thoughts of being with you and loving you all at the same time. Or even years. It could be, though, that in our quest to be what we think is our version of ’good’, ’loving’ or even ’perfect’, we got so caught up in playing this role that we stopped knowing how to be us. But I knew that sending this email would solidify that. Then I got blindsided by a breakup. And to make matters worse, their reasons for breaking up … 15 Reasons He'll Break Up With You (Even If You're Perfect) ... and seem to be blindsided when he says that he’s “just not in love with you”. I’ve heard from so many people who were shocked by their discomfort with saying no *even when* it came to the matter of their health and comfort levels. Probably not. Five years on, including a year’s break in between after losing my father and feeling a bit lost between that and turning forty, almost 1.8 million downloads, and having accompanied people’s bath and bed times, gym sessions, walks, runs, hikes, mountain climbing (literally and figuratively), chill sessions and so much more, I found it fitting to celebrate with the person who kickstarted it. The only possible sign was that my boyfriend was under an unhealthy amount of pressure at his job. Curiosity goes a long way with helping you to learn to listen to yourself. Social media doesn’t help, nor does the constant marketing of success and happiness that can trigger this sense that you and your life aren’t up to scratch. Here are some scripts that have all been used over the last several months as we navigate the pandemic. Curiosity goes a long way with helping you to learn to listen to yourself. I was too emotional. Like my friend who was dumped just weeks before her wedding. Ok, so now that we choice how the no reasons for a blindsided breakup rising chances into this where tools crap actualization bliindsided in. Also to make issues more serious, their … The partner who is blindsided is left feeling used, confused and betrayed. I was left with so much anger, so much pain, so many questions I’d never get an answer to, and the worst part is I felt like he just got away with it. The trauma that comes with blindsiding breakups often has less to do with the breakup itself than we often think. Thanks, exes 2. I had to be willing to make those episodes first, though, and listen. No wonder this breakup arrived as a shock. This breakup pulled me into the purgatory of life. I hate how much I still miss him. And to make matters worse, his reasons for breaking up seem so out of left field and don't make any sense. Five How to cope with the ‘Blindsided’ Breakup You’ve been dating that special someone for a number of months. He broke up with you because he didn’t want to be with you. They’re only human, of course, but don’t dismiss what you’ve experienced. Every last thing we do as humans is about trying to meet our emotional needs. So, of course, we have things that we desire and aspire to, but we can do it from a place of already being enough. 201: Who were you ‘getting to know’ over those texts? Or months. Didn’t I Mean Something To Them? Rather than him abruptly locking me out. They were sometimes prepared to make themselves and possibly others ill just so they didn't have to say no, and this realisation shook them up. Narcissists *always* overplay their hand. In this case, promise to be friends, and then really try to do your best to stay friends, having said that, let us list some reasons why one should breakup– Following are the Top 17 reasons for breakup Don’t They Care About Me? Podcast Ep. This is one of the worst things that can happen when you are dating someone. Would we have gotten back together? No one ever said something was ’too much’, only too little. It might not have been what they intended, but their actions do have consequences that shouldn’t only be experienced by you. Posted Oct 28, 2016 I guess I just want a perspective from someone who doesn't know me or her. The trauma that comes with blindsiding breakups often has less to do with the breakup itself than we often think. Reader Question: What does it mean when a man says ‘I can’t give you want you want’? A reason is just to placate you and give you something tangible to hang onto aside from “This isn’t going to work.” And like I said, the reason he gives is probably real, but if he really wanted you, … A blindside breakup can only occur when one party of the relationship believes that they are on the same wavelength as the other party of the relationship. 200: The One Where Nat and Em Hang Out. The D&D is the psychopath’s most damaging form of emotional (and sometimes physical) abuse, but it also reveals something else: his accidental respect for you. We can't pay bills, end suffering or own our responsibilities with ‘good intentions’. When you lose the familiarity, daily routine and stability of a relationship, it is important that you surround yourself with people who make you feel safe, loved and cared for. They think that they can move on free of problems, but what they’ve sought to avoid will just show up in a different way. Then I got blindsided by a breakup. More peace and joy, for sure. save over 30% on BREAK THE CYCLE OF EMOTIONAL UNAVAILABILITY, the online course, You Can’t Erase An Ex From Your Mind…But You Can Reduce Their Power AND Keep Pushing Forward, Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Commandment 10: Thou must close the door and move forward. I’m 43 and live on the edge of south London in Caterham, Surrey with my husband, two daughters and our cockerpoo. They disappear so that you can’t … Take care of you. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. They disappear so that you can’t … The reason I ask is because most people who make a transition like this have connections or know people in industries in the place they wish to next call home. Unfortunately, when you’re blindsided with a breakup, it’s not uncommon for the person to stonewall all further communication. When someone’s focus is on their intentions instead of our lived experience of their actions, they’re showing a lack of empathy and responsibility in that moment. But I would say that the blindside breakup is the worst of all. Most breakups come after a series of conversations. It could be that in our pursuit of a goal, we’ve lost connection to other things that matter because we’re blinded by who we think we’ll be when we get what we want. I’m only asking that whatever is driving you to inadvertently inflict pain upon those those who care about you the most, to find the strength to look at it. Why Do They Keep Having Sex With Me If They’re Not Interested Or Don’t Want The Relationship I Want? I fell for you for your ability to see me as a whole person, in spite of my flaws. Sometimes we put our hand back into the proverbial fire because we’re trying to be ‘nice’ or ‘giving’. We say that we’re just trying to be a friend or that we’re giving them another chance. A UCLA study reveals that spending time with close friends causes the brain to release natural opioids, which are like the painkillers found in opium. If You Were Blindsided By A Breakup, These 7 Women Feel Your Pain. Just like there was a reason for the breakup -- there was a reason for the relationship. While your goal may have been to do me a favor, saying that I deserved better, know that you in fact did the opposite. And FYI—it was not your fault at all. 746 746. It’s these assumptions and judgments that stop us from humanising ourselves and others. I’d been through many a breakup before, but what really shook me to the core about this one was how suddenly everything ended. #baggagereclaim #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #beingyourself #embroideryart #selflovequotes #embroiderersofinstagram ... We are in community. I'm still obsessed with 90s music and am an eternal raver. By lost1, 5 years ago on Breaking up. Everything was so easy. They think they're outwitting everyone and that they can bully any ’detractors’ into submission. This is. Thanks to the shenanigans of 2020, there’s already a lot of pressure on this year. Others know what is and isn't permissible when you communicate it. When I said “you seem stressed” and offered simple solutions like “let’s see each other on weekends or once a week until things calm down at work”, what he heard was “you’re failing me”. I have loved dearly and deeply and let go of people who I knew weren’t right for me. 3. 10 Signs That A Guy Wants You Just For Sex. We don’t ‘see’ them and what they’re going through because of how we’ve judged their situation or imagined them to be. What makes us or someone else weak or messing up? It’s possible that you had little niggles and inklings. So for anyone who is struggling with heartbreak, I hope this can be helpful. It’s these assumptions and judgments that stop us from humanising ourselves and others. Pandemic or not, it's always more than OK to say no. When I also very abruptly got laid off, I reached out to you in need of a friend, and while I’m sure unintentional, you chose to hurt me again. Maybe it seemed like everything was perfect. Unfortunately, he forgot to mention that he’d already begun a new relationship. Last week, my podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, reached the two hundred episodes milestone It was my husband, Em, who suggested I start one, and after a year of faffing about due to, well, perfectionism and overthinking, I finally launched. No the script on your ex. I want you to know first and foremost that regardless of how things ended, I am grateful for the time we spent together, because it was the first time I got to experience how it felt to be fully myself in a relationship. Here are some ways to deal with one. #baggagereclaim #goodintentions #healthyboundaries #boundaries #gaslighting #gaslightingawareness #takeresponsibility #valuesmatter #recoveringpeoplepleaser ... Like a lot of recovering people-pleasers and perfectionists, asking for help isn't my strong suit. It’s possible to still be surprised by that type of breakup, but you can’t say that it’s completely out of nowhere. 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